Ekshibisi Keintiman Pasangan Kelas Menengah Muslim dan Rekognisi Sosial di Ruang Digital
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https://doi.org/10.30983/usraty.v1i2.7557Abstract
Artikel ini membahas tentang ekshibisi keintiman pasangan kelas menengah muslim dan rekognisi sosial di ruang digital. Pada dasarnya, pernikahan di dalam Islam merupakan ritual ibadah yang secara ideal merupakan instrumen untuk mencapai kualitas kehidupan yang sakinah, mawaddah dan rahmah. Konsekuensi dari pernikahan adalah terjalinnya rasa cinta antar pasangan yang pada gilirannya menuju kepada keintiman antar personal. Seiring berkembangnya arus informasi, konfigurasi keintiman pasangan muslim tidak lagi hanya dirasakan oleh sebuah pasangan, namun juga dimodifikasi sebagai perantara dakwah untuk menyampaikan pesan positif tentang pernikahan kepada orang lain. Dengan pendekatan deskriptif kualitatif, artikel ini ingin memotret pergulatan identitas pasangan kelas menengah muslim dalam pergaulan digital, menggambarkan, mengidentifikasi, dan menganalisis fenomena tersebut tanpa berusaha mengajukan penjelasan atau interpretasi kausal. Penelitian ini menyimpulkan bahwa parade keintiman pasangan muslim di ruang publik tidak hanya sebatas eksistensi diri, lebih jauh juga merupakan upaya untuk mendapatkan rekognisi sosial dari komunitas digital yang berimplikasi kepada engagement indvidu hingga nilai ekonomis. Tindakan dan interaksi ini, disadari atau tidak, memainkan peran dalam membentuk opini publik. Keintiman pasangan yang diungkapkan oleh sebuah pasangan dapat memberikan pengaruh positif atau negatif tergantung pada respons audience-nya.
The exhibiting of intimacy between middle-class Muslim couples and their social recognition in the public sphere are the topics of this essay. In essence, Islamic marriage is a worship ceremony that is intended to be used as an instrument of obtaining sakinah, mawaddah, and rahmah—quality of life. The creation of a love bond between couples is the consequence of marriage, so this love bond eventually leads to interpersonal intimacy. The dynamics of intimacy between Muslim couples have evolved such that they now serve as a conduit for da'wah, which spreads virtuous teachings to the public regarding marriage. This essay aims to capture the identity problems of middle-class Muslim couples in digital relationships using a qualitative descriptive technique, without attempting to offer causal explanations or interpretations. Instead, it describes, identifies, and analyses the phenomena. This study concludes that Muslim couples' public displays of affection are not just an attempt to live their lives; they are also an attempt to be recognized by the online community, which has consequences for personal engagement to economics value. Whether intentionally or not, these conducts and conversations influence public perceptions. The intimate relationship displayed by a couple can have a beneficial or negative impact depending on the audience's response
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